You said yes, celebrated your engagement with family and friends and created too many Pinterest wedding boards to count. Que the pressure to achieve the perfect body for your wedding.
How often do you look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself you are beautiful? Chances are, it isn't nearly enough! We already hold ourselves to unrealistic standards of beauty and then we turn up the pressure even more when we get engaged… sound familiar? I'll be the first to admit that I raised my standards after getting engaged. There's something about knowing all eyes will be on you that makes you want to put that extra bit of effort in at the gym. Unfortunately, that all too often leads to an unhealthy view of yourself right now. Use your wedding day as motivation, while still loving yourself in the process!
Strive for progress, not perfection.
After a week or two of consistently hitting the gym and watching your nutrition, you might start to get a little impatient that you aren't seeing the results you want right away. You may even want to give up completely. Achieving your goals isn't going to happen overnight! Set small goals and celebrate little victories along the way to keep yourself motivated and focused.
Admire others' beauty without questioning your own.
Happiness is found when you stop comparing yourself to other people. Challenge yourself to encourage and uplift others instead of getting jealous and discouraged. Keep your focus on your personal achievements and how far you've come. Everyone's story is different. Embrace your own and be proud of it!
Train your mind to see the good in everything.
Training your mind is just as important as training your body. As soon as you start to think or say something negative about yourself, make a conscious effort to turn it into a positive thought. You'll start to notice a change in your attitude and how others view you. Choose to see the good in both your strengths and your weaknesses.
Next time you're looking in your mirror, tell yourself you're beautiful… and believe it.
Author: Paula Dubovoy is a certified personal trainer in Chicago with a passion for fitness and wedding planning. She loves helping brides get fit and feel their best for their wedding through living a healthy and balanced lifestyle.