Lisa's wedding was gorgeous as you can tell from her pictures. However, as with every other wedding, there was definitely drama. Be sure to check out Lisa's real wedding story, especially if you are considering purchasing your wedding gown on the internet!
Brides Name: Lisa
Grooms Name: Wade
Wedding Date: October 6th, 2012
Photographer: Alan Alvarez, Frank Zamaripa, and Christine Fenton
Tell us a little about the things that stressed you out during your wedding planning process.
First of all, I had the wedding at my house that I just bought last year. It had NO landscaping and the terrine is rough so we had to seriously, not only plan a wedding but be landscapers and gardeners. We made everything from the centerpieces to bouquets! ALL DIY!
I didn't hire a wedding planner! I had a big bridal party and some of them lived in different cities and states. They were all divas. I knew how they were, but I thought they would set it aside because I was the bride.
We didn't have help from our parents, at first, including getting addresses for the people they wanted to invite, so it took me forever to send out invites. Plus, we had some wrong addresses so a lot of people didn't ever receive them. Then, the guests who did receive their invitations didn't know how to RSVP in time or at all so head counts were impossible to get accurate for the tables and caterer. We hired a caterer one week before the wedding because our original caterer wouldn't stay in our price budget, but the food was amazing and exactly what I wanted!
What would you have done differently with your venue, bridal party, cake, dress, etc…
Our cake was amazing, but it was way over priced ($700) for a Swedish bakery style cake for two hundred guests. I think maybe going and pricing the cake out better and shopping around would have been a good idea, but it was the one thing my husband wanted and making him feel like part of the planning was important. So remember ladies, it is your day, but it's the start of many days with your husband so share the process and stress!
I bought a dress online, huge mistake! I do recommend that if you do order a dress online go a size bigger than you are so it can be taken in. I ordered mine my size, but it was too snug on my hips so I ended up buying another dress from a discounted bridal store. All of the wedding dresses were floor samples from previous bridal stores so they were cheaper! It was perfect, but the store was super unorganized and they made me cry a few times because of miscommunication. It was just poor business etiquette so I wouldn't recommend them to any bride, but I did love my dress!
My bridal party was too big; seven girls and seven boys. They all have very colorful personalities so I would have made it a little smaller. I had one bridesmaid drop out a month before because the bridezilla was popping out, but seeing how she WAS my best friend I thought she would understand the huge amount of stress I was under, but she didn't. She broke up with me via voicemail and that was that! You find out who really loves you in this whole process of planning, so don't get offended if and when someone bails. Oh and two days before the wedding a groomsman dropped out so we had to get creative with the lineup because I had already replaced the bridesmaid who dropped out with an old friend who we reconnected with during the whole wedding planning.
New chapter, new characters … Just remember that everything happens for a reason. Having it at my home was hard and we definitely bit off way more than we could chew, but now I have an amazing backyard that I will cherish for a lifetime! Plus, it was a good test for my husband and me! If we could get through working together on a yard that needed a miracle then life together would be a piece of cake.
What did not go according to plan on your wedding day?
My hair! I am really particular on how I do my hair and I'm really good at it, but my bridesmaids' said I should relax and have someone do it … Needless to say, I ended up redoing my hair and makeup myself. So go with your instincts. It was a nice gesture, though.
The room we got ready in was nice, but I also shared it with guests that were attending the wedding. This was because my sister gave her room away at the last minute. The morning of the wedding my whole family came over for coffee and cake and wouldn't leave! I just wanted to relax and get ready without all the noise and distractions so I broke down and had a family member ask everyone I leave.
I wanted to be at my house making sure everything was going up and getting done, but I didn't go because I would have seen my groom. It was important to me not to see him until the second I was walking down the aisle. So I had to trust my friends and family to make it beautiful.
The person who married my husband and I were a whole hour late so my guests were getting impatient! Since it was at my house we got a port-a-potties because I didn't want people inside my house, but people came inside and my house was a disaster! I should have hired a maid to clean it up the day of and after.
When we started to try to take some pictures after the ceremony my bridal party wouldn't cooperate. Some bridesmaids even made others cry, so I didn't get nearly as many pictures as I wanted. My photographer (the one I ended up paying) was not bossy enough to get things done so I cut it short. I know that I missed out on the opportunity of having really cute pictures.
All in all, no one knows what didn't get put up or how something wasn't decorated and it turned out beautiful!
How did you deal with those “not so perfect moments”?
The day of the wedding I was so overwhelmed with happiness and joy I really just paid no attention to it except for when we were trying to take pictures, I did lose it and told my bridal party to shut up and smile … I could have handled that better.
I cried a lot and drank a lot. I had to take a few moments to just relax and calm down during my last few days of decorating.
Honestly, we were decorating until people started showing up for the wedding, cementing the walkway that we stood on.
What did you learn from these issues and what would you tell other brides-to-be?
BREATHE … And, stock up on wine 🙂
Remember, at the end of it all, it will be worth it. Everything happens for a reason, so accept it and move on. When things go wrong don't panic. None of your guests know what to expect so just accept what doesn't get done. Oh, and start right away and don't slack off!